Amy Welborn (and, for the most part, those who’ve commented on her post) get it right, I think. Can’t we do something to overcome the divisiveness in the Church–or any other polarized situation, for that matter?I’m not suggesting we go to some sort of lowest-common-denominator, “Can’t we all just get along?” kind of approach. But surely, when we participate in discussions with those with whom we disagree, our aim shouldn’t be to score points, or to win debates. Rather, we should be seeking genuinely to understand the others’ position, and be open to learning from it. To tune it out because we don’t agree with it is to deny ourselves both the opportunity to learn, and to form a relationship with people we don’t agree with. (I’m serious about the last half of that sentence. Would I be much interested in staying in relationship with someone who wasn’t interested in listening to something I thought was important? If not, why should I think that anyone else would?)That’s not, of course, to say that we should necessarily back away from our own positions. But I do think we need to be careful (a) to present our own position in a way that seeks to inform and persuade–i.e., we shouldn’t be heavy-handed about it, and (b) to be genuinely open to questioning our own position, if the other person provides good evidence that it should be questioned.